When you're planning your wedding, it's really important to know how to avoid becoming a Bridezilla. It's understandable that a bride wants her wedding to be memorable, but some just go too far. We've all encountered a demanding bride who wants everything to be beyond perfect! So while you're ordering invitations and trying on dresses, follow these tips on how to avoid becoming a Bridezilla …
1. WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT
The first tip on how to avoid becoming a bridezilla is to remind yourself what the wedding is all about. It's easy to get caught up in all the excitement and focus simply on the wedding day. A wedding is a lovely occasion but it's just the start. There are lots of years to follow! Remember that marriage is about making a commitment and building a relationship together.
2. PERSPECTIVE
It's your day, but there is no need to turn into a white-clad dictator. If you start trying to micro-manage every detail of the day, then it becomes less about having a wonderful, memorable wedding. You don't want to be obsessive. So don't go overboard.
3. LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE
Listen to the people who are close to you. If they tell you that you're going over the top then they may have a point. Brides can easily get so excited about planning their dream wedding that they lose a sense of perspective. Other people don't have the same emotional investment in your wedding, so they can see when you're in danger of going over the top.
4. LIMITS
If you're aware that you're becoming a bit of a Bridezilla, it can help to set some limits for yourself. These can be financial or practical. For example, you can decide that you'll only spend an hour browsing catalogs or deciding which car you want to hire. Financial limits also keep your inner Bridezilla in check. Remember that you don't have to spend up to your maximum budget!
5. DON'T PANIC OVER DETAILS
Many brides feel that their day must be perfect in every way, down to the smallest details. So if the invitations are in the wrong type or the table decorations aren't the exact shade of pink desired, they throw a massive tantrum. Don't be one of those brides who feels that her day will be spoiled by tiny details. It'll only be spoiled if you let it!
6. COMPETITION
The Bridezilla is often created through a desire to compete with other brides. If someone she knows had 200 guests, then she must have 300. Her venue must be plusher and pricier, her dress more elaborate. How do you stop yourself from following the same path? Use other weddings for inspiration, by all means, but don't try to outdo them. Nobody is going to be impressed by that.
7. DON'T FORGET YOUR FIANCÉ
Finally, remember that there is someone else of equal importance here. Yes, your fiancé. Bridezillas trample through the wedding preparations, forgetting that their husband-to-be exists and that he has a right to opinions on his own wedding. Give him a chance to speak! Listen to his opinions and likes, and don't try to make all decisions for him.
It's perfectly reasonable that a bride wants to have a wonderful wedding, but there are women who take it to extremes. They're in severe danger of losing perspective of what really matters. The wedding day is only the start of a marriage, and the important thing is to enjoy yourself. That can't really happen if they're obsessing about the napkins. Have you ever encountered a Bridezilla - or even a Groomzilla?
